Man, does my heart ache when either of my boys are having a difficult day or time. Whether it's at school, friends, daycare, sports, church or at home. We all have bad days, but that doesn't give me any comfort when P or K have one. I just want to take care of what ever it is for them and send them off happy, smiling and having fun...but I know I can't always do that. That wouldn't be preparing them for the "real world", now would it?? sigh... Someone popped my bubble! I mean, come on, they are only 6, do they really need to be prepared for the real world just yet? But then I have always said that teaching children when they are young and then it will be natural for them when they get older. You can't let a child run wild as a toddler and then all of a sudden expect them to listen and do exactly what you say when you say it. Or teaching manners. Oh my, where have the manners gone?? PLEASE teach your children manners. That's another soap box, though...
One of my boys is a little more sensitive, okay, a lot more, than the other. It's just their own personalities. Just because they are twins, doesn't mean they are the exact same in every shape, form and manner. He gets his feeling hurt easily, and quite frankly, he comes by it VERY honestly, from him Momma, but he gets his temper from his Daddy. All that to say, he is having a difficult time this year with his 1st grade teacher. When we were in school not THAT long ago, we were learning the things kids are learning in K & 1st grade that we were learning in 2 & 3rd grade. The boys were already alternating going to other teachers classes part of the day in kindergarten. I didn't start doing that until 6th grade.
At the beginning of this school year, I knew we were going to possibly have a not-so-great-as-wonderful-as-our-kindergarten teacher when 1st grade teacher sent home one of his schoolwork papers and she wrote "come on" at the top of it...the first few weeks of school!! Then another with "too messy". We "thought" we had a good solution for the "too messy" note... We told him to slow down and take his time to make his letters better and spread his words out more. Well, that backfired. Now we were getting notes on his papers with "40 min. later" etc. Poor kid can't win for loosing. So at this point he is starting to shut down in class and be pretty emotional at home too. Things only got worse after Christmas break. Within the first week of being back at school, the teacher had already written more notes on his paperwork directed to parents and sent me two e-mails asking if "anything was going on at home". To say I was mad is a HUGE understatement. I wanted to replay saying "no lady, it's what is going on THERE and your attitude towards him and what you say and write to him that is affecting him!!". But I didn't. Instead I called the school principal and counselor and discussed it with them, then they met with my son. Things were discussed then the principal said she would have a meeting with the teacher. Apparently she did, because ALL notes, good and not so wonderful, were no longer being put on his papers. NOTHING, no smiley faces etc. Maybe I am worrying/reading into this WAY too much?? Can a 6 year old have such animosity towards someone? I ask because he didn't participate when the class sang happy birthday to the teacher. That is when I knew things were worse than I even knew. Some days he would even come home and go straight to his bed and lay there with his stuffed animal. This is not natural and I knew something needed to be change. But what at this point of the school year? There are only 3 more months of this school year. Do we leave him in that teachers class and hope that he continues to learn everything that he needs to in order to go to 2nd grade or move him to a different class/teacher? This is also the first year that the boys have not been in the same class, and I am sure that is part of the issue...a small part. He was the one that was excited to be in a different class than brother, but now, he gets excited when he gets to visit brother's class occasionally. I just want to fix all of this. For both of my boys to have an enjoyable school year and to look forward to school while they still should. The time for them to dread going to school comes soon enough as is. This teacher is setting him up to not like school and he's only in 1st grade! I want my bubble back! ; ) Pray for us, please. We just got another call about him having a melt down in class and she took him to the office. Note that she called Daddy and not Mommy.... SMH.
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